420
Someone who is marijuana friendly.
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(Swing)Tionary
A glossary of lifestyle language, event shorthand, acronyms, and community terms...don't see one? Let us know so we can update our Swingtionary!
Quick note: Some terms are explicit because the lifestyle uses explicit language. Definitions are offered for education, context, and communication, not as advice, endorsement, or rules for anyone’s relationship.
911
Emergency. (Duh?)
AC/DC
Someone who enjoys both same-sex and opposite-sex sexual activity; bi; bisexual.
Adult
Sexually oriented material; pornographic.
All Cultures
Person or couple who enjoys a wide range of interests, fetishes, and sexual activities.
American Culture
The man-on-top, basic missionary position.
Anal Sex
Anal intercourse; “butt stuff.”
Analingus
Oral contact or stimulation of the anus by kissing, licking, or sucking.
Arts
Euphemism for fetishes.
ATM
Ass to mouth.
Bangover
When you wake up sore and hungover after a very enthusiastic night.
Bareback
Sex without a condom.
B&D / B/D / BDSM
Bondage and discipline; restraint, discipline, dominance/submission, and sometimes sadomasochism.
Bi / Bisexual
Someone who has sexual relationships with males and females.
Bi-Curious
A person interested in trying same-sex activities.
Bondage
A fetish involving consensual restraint, tying, or holding a participating partner.
Bull
In cuckold/hotwife contexts, a sexually dominant male involved with a woman or couple; sometimes used more generally for a male joining a couple.
Can Entertain and/or Travel
Willing to host others or travel for lifestyle play.
Caning
A spanking fetish using a light cane.
Cheating
Sexual activity with others without a spouse or partner’s knowledge and consent. Also: not cool.
Clean
Hygienic; often used to mean free of sexually transmitted infections, though testing language is clearer.
Closed Door / Closed Swinging
Couples play in separate rooms, offering maximum privacy.
Closet Swinger
Someone who hides that they are a swinger.
Couple / CPL
In swinging, usually a man and a woman together as a couple. May be married, committed, living together, or dating.
Creampie
Internal ejaculation with visible ejaculate afterward.
Cuckold
A husband whose wife plays with others, sometimes while he watches or later hears about it. Usage varies widely.
Cuckquean
The gender-opposite of cuckold; a wife or female partner whose male partner plays with others.
Culture
Euphemism for fetish or arts.
Cunnilingus
Oral stimulation of the vulva/clitoris. Best practiced with consent and communication.
D&D Free
Drug and disease free.
Dildo
A penis-shaped toy, usually used for sexual stimulation.
Director
The principal person who runs or operates a swing club, often the owner.
Discipline
Consensual domination/punishment play, ranging from restraint to spanking or more intense scenes.
Discreet / Discretion
Careful handling of privacy so others are not unintentionally exposed to lifestyle activity.
Discrete
Individual or separate; also a common misspelling of discreet.
Docile
Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline.
Dominant
A partner who takes the controlling role with a willing submissive partner.
DP
Double penetration.
Drama
Jealousy, aggression, or emotional chaos that usually does not mix well with lifestyle spaces.
Ellis
A code name used to identify members of the lifestyle. “Friend of Ellis” refers to L.S., or Lifestyle.
English Culture
Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning.
Exhibitionist
Someone who enjoys being watched or displaying their body.
Family First
Often means a couple has kids/family obligations and may need more scheduling flexibility.
Fellatio / French Culture
Oral stimulation of the penis.
Fetish
Sexual arousal or pleasure involving non-genital anatomy, objects, scenarios, or actions.
Figging
Ginger-root insertion play, more kink/BDSM than swing-specific, and mostly included because it is memorable.
Flagellation
Sexual stimulation derived from whipping, spanking, or pain play.
Fluid Bonding
Unprotected sex involving fluid exchange.
FMF
Female / Male / Female.
Full Swap
A couple has penetrative sex with other couples.
Fun and Games
Euphemism for sexual activity.
Gay
A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called lesbian.
Gangbang
Three or more males with one female.
Generous
Often code for money-for-sex arrangements.
Greek / Greek Culture
Anal sex.
Group Room
Room set aside for group sex, often furnished with mattresses or pads.
Group Sex
Sexual activity involving three or more people.
Hall Pass
Permission for one partner to play outside the presence of the other.
HWP
Height/weight proportionate.
Hard Core / Hard Swinging
A swing party or encounter where sexual interaction is assumed or expected.
Hedonist
Someone who lives for pleasure.
Heterosexual
Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
Homosexual
Sexual attraction to members of the same sex.
Horny
Sexually aroused or tense.
Hung
Refers to a man with a large penis.
Indoor / Indoor Sports
Swinging activities in general.
Interested in Friendship
Looking for a lifestyle relationship that includes emotional or recreational friendship values.
IRL
In real life.
ISO
In search of; often used in ads.
Leather
A fetish involving sexual stimulation through leather clothing or touch.
Lesbian
A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to women.
Lifestyle
Another way of saying swinger or swinging community.
LS
Short for lifestyle.
LTR
Long-term relationship.
Marital Aids
Toys or devices used for sexual pleasure.
Masochism
Sexual gratification from receiving pain or humiliation.
Master / Slave
Participants in a bondage and discipline dynamic.
Matroom
Room set aside for group sex; an eastern U.S. term.
Meet for Pleasure
Willing to meet for sexual activity without pretending it is primarily social or emotional.
Ménage à Trois
Three people, two of one sex and one of another, in a sexual interaction.
MFM / MFMF
Male/Female/Male and Male/Female/Male/Female.
Moresomes
More than three people in a sexual interaction.
Mutual Masturbation
Masturbating in the presence of someone else.
NASCA
North American Swing Club Association.
Newcomers
New people in swinging; first-timers.
Nonsmoker
Does not smoke; in ads, may mean only nonsmokers are sought.
NSA
No strings attached; usually purely sexual activity.
Off-Premise
A club or party where no play happens on-site; people meet and make their own arrangements elsewhere.
Open Door / Open Swinging
Couples play in the same room, sometimes with several couples together.
Orgy
Group sexual interaction involving multiple people.
Party
Gathering of three or more people for swinging.
Party Clothes
Clothing suited for swing parties, often easy to remove or designed to feel sexy.
Party House
Western U.S. term for a non-membership swing club with regular on-premise parties.
Passive
Quiet or submissive participant.
P/P
Photo and phone number.
Pro
Professional; often used to mean paid escort or prostitute.
Recreational Swinger
Someone who swings primarily as recreation, without seeking long-term friendship or attachment.
Restraint
Mild bondage used in fantasy or roleplay.
Roman / Roman Culture
Group sex, orgies, or party scene activity.
Rubber
Condom; can also refer to rubber-related fetish material.
Sadism
Sexual gratification from inflicting pain or humiliation on others.
Safe
Sometimes used to mean sterile or unable to conceive/impregnate; can also be used broadly around safer play.
Same Room
A couple is willing to play in the same room as their spouse/partner.
Separate Room
A couple is willing to play at the same time in different rooms.
S&M / S/M
Sadism and masochism.
Single
A swinger without a partner; does not necessarily refer to marital status.
Social
A party, dance, or gathering for swingers to meet and socialize, with no play at the event itself.
Social Swing Club
Private membership club offering social and play-focused lifestyle activities.
Sodomy
Non-coital sex, especially anal or oral sex.
Soft Swingers
Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner and do not swap for intercourse.
Soft Swinging / SRS
Same-room sex, watching/being watched, or play up to but not including intercourse with others.
Spaghettisexual
A tongue-in-cheek term for a straight woman who becomes more flexible when aroused.
Spitroast
Receiving penetration from the front and back at the same time.
STD
Sexually transmitted disease.
STR / STR8 / Straight
Not interested in same-sex activity; can also mean non-drug-using or non-swinging depending on context.
Submissive
Someone who wishes to be dominated.
Swapping
Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
Swedish Culture
Use of hands, especially massage, for sexual stimulation.
Swinging
An alternative lifestyle among consenting adults involving social and recreational sexual activity with others, usually with full knowledge and consent of partners.
Swinger Insurance
Sexual aid used to help achieve or maintain an erection.
Swinging Lifestyle
A lifestyle where swinging is a major component of recreation, friendships, social life, and intimacy.
Swinging Marriage
Marriage incorporating swinging and often humanistic ideals.
TAN
Tested antibody negative for HIV/AIDS.
Threesome
Three people in a sexual encounter.
Ticket
A person, usually a woman, brought to a party mainly to get a man admitted, sometimes without real intent to play.
Triad
Three people in an ongoing emotional and sexual relationship; not the same as a threesome.
Twink
Young, attractive male homosexual person.
Utopian Swinger
Someone who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
V-Safe
A male with a vasectomy.
Vas-Safe
Another way of saying V-safe.
Versatile
Bisexual; in some contexts, able to take different sexual roles.
Vibrator
Electric or battery-powered device used for sexual stimulation.
Voluptuous
Fullness of beauty and form, often referring to curves.
Voyeur
Someone who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
Voyeurism
Sexual gratification from watching others.
VWE
Very well-endowed individual.
Way-Outs / Weirdos
People interested in activities considered kinky, unusual, or unconventional.
W/E
Well-endowed.
Acronyms
Common shorthand
Some abbreviations are common in profiles, ads, conversations, and older lifestyle spaces. Meanings can vary by community, so context still matters.